Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Message from a former IVCF staff worker

Dear friends and family,
Yesterday was my last day on staff with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. I never thought I would transition from InterVarsity to something less financially stable... But here I go! I am excited for the way so many of you have stuck with me these last number of years and it is my hope that we would remain connected as the journey continues. I look forward to discovering afresh my role as an amateur teacher and preacher. I hope to serve the church and the world as a volunteer, and to support and pray for those who are setting themselves aside for the sake of God's mission. As always it is my prayer that the work I do will make a positive impact on the world and bring glory to God. In the midst of all this, I long for continued growth as a child of God, a husband to Jane, and a father to my wonderful boys.

Below are some ways we have recently experienced joy and received answers to prayer. I also share a bit about what I have planned for life after InterVarsity.

Tears of Gratitude

Over the past couple weeks I have taken time to reflect on the years I have had the pleasure to love and serve university students at Berkeley, USF and Stanford. I have been brought to tears through the words of affection and affirmation I have received from students, alumni and friends. During a farewell event I had this past Saturday, I realize that the experience I was having - of people coming around me to celebrate my life - is incredibly rare. It is something that most frequently happens after someone dies! I cannot express enough gratitude to all of you who took time to write notes, speak encouraging words and even give to a going off staff present.

When I came home from the party I took time to read some of the kind words that many of you wrote and I started to weep. Joey noticed at one point that I was crying and came to check to make sure his daddy was OK. I told him that sometimes people cry when they are filled with joy and gratitude. He seemed to just file that idea away and go back to jumping from couch to couch. In that moment I was overwhelmed with how incredibly privileged I have been to spend so much of my life sharing with others the wonders of God and the ways of his kingdom and how loved I have felt in doing it. It has been a tremendous joy having a front row seat to watch how God is working in students' lives as they transition into adulthood. I am incredibly grateful for the years I have been able to witness student after student experience and respond to his love and grace.

Thank you for the ways that through your love, encouragement, prayers and financial support you have given me the privilege to live this life - to dedicate what Jane describes as "my first fruits" to God's work on campus.

Clarity about housing ... for now
Thank you to all of you who prayed that God would give us clarity about our housing situation. The short answer is we withdrew our offer because we believe we received a sign from God. What was the sign? It is a story of its own - visit our blog to read it. http://www.kuoparis.com/2009/07/clarity-about-housing-for-now.html

What is next for Jon
Many of you know I started GracefulTools.com as a suite of online applications for event management and appointment confirmation. One of the things I am looking forward to in these next months is to provide some much needed updates these tools.

The bigger part of my life in this next season involves some work I am doing with two of the smartest and hardest working guys I know (Tim Su and Abe Parvand). We are working on something that I believe will help those of us who are lazy and disorganized, undisciplined and overwhelmed, forgetful and prone to procrastinate - to start achieving our goals and to become more who we want to be. Sound intriguing?
We plan to launch early this August. In the next 24 hours you can help us confirm what we will call our website. Visit: http://namethis.com/name_this/projects/2103-servicecompany-bring-self-improvement-to-mobile-devices.

You can also visit the website of the first project that we have worked on together at weloveastrid.com. Astrid is the #1 Todo List/Task management application on Google's Android platform and has been downloaded over 100,000 times. If you have an Android phone be sure to check it out.

What is next for your relationship with InterVarsity?
It is my prayer and longing that the ministry of InterVarsity would continue to thrive and grow as I leave. Whether you have supported me financially these past years I would love it if you would consider joining me as I continue in financially supporting the ministries at Stanford, Berkeley and USF. To do so simply visit www.ivcf.org/donate.

This mailing list
While some of you might be happy for the occasion to remove yourself from my typo-infested mailing list others of you have requested that I continue to send updates. I am happy to share about my life and family and shamelessly solicit prayer - so I will keep sending updates!

With love,
Jon

Clarity about housing ... for now

I want to thank all of you who prayed for us on Friday after I shared that our offer for a house in East Palo Alto was accepted. In that email I asked you to pray for clarity. A couple hours after I sent out the email we received some clarity in an unexpected way. I went with a student to go see the house and planned on working in a cafe nearby to get a better sense of the neighborhood. Upon arriving at the house we discovered that the side gate was open and someone had broken into the house and stolen some of what was inside.

While this was annoying, we understand that vacant houses getting robbed is fairly common. Still a couple things gave me the sense that I was to receive this as a sign from God.

1) The fact that it was robbed hours after I invited all of you to pray and not during the months it had previously been vacant.
2) The officer who came to do the police report described the area as a "shooting gallery" and told us it is two blocks away from what is thought to be the center of activity for one of the more dangerous EPA gangs know as the "Taliban."
3) Two other houses on the street were robbed that afternoon one while residents were inside.
4) The observation that the this robbery happened on such a open street demonstrating which the officer noted was less common and may indicate an emboldening of those who are committing these crimes.

Because our primary sense of calling as I am leaving staff has not as of yet been to ministry to urban youth but instead to raise our boys and engage the world through some entrepreneurship this news lead us to believe we should not purchase this home so we decided to withdraw our offer. While it wasn't the result we were hoping for we are grateful for clarity and answered prayer.

Please pray for Jane as she continues to explore. Please pray that we find a home that is both a blessing to our family and can provides some stability from which we can be a blessing to the world.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Back from Summer Conference off to East Palo Alto?

Dear family and friends,
Thank you to all of you who remembered us in prayer last week during the IVCF year end summer conference. The conference went really well. Leading the seminar for 21 graduates from the class of 2009 was especially significant as I am about to embark on a very similar transition in the coming days. I was encouraged by the way that they engaged with the story of Joseph as recounted in the book of Genesis and for the obvious relevance to our lives.

On the last night of the conference the students honored/roasted me by playing a version of Jeopardy with all the question and answers referring to things they have observed me say or do. They came up with categories including "Speaking best practices", "All about Jon" and "Ticks." I was amused and flattered by the way they could recount so many of my "Jonisms" and only slightly offended by some of the ways they imitated me with the "Ticks" category. At the end of the night I was tearful and choked up having been reminded of how much I love this community and having experienced such an expression of their love for me. I was too busy experiencing the evening to capture it in a photo but I have attached a picture from earlier in the conference.
Family Movement
While these last few months I have been focusing my attention on ending well, Jane has been beginning to explore some of the possibilities for our future. For the first time in our marriage we are in a place where living "on top" of a university is not a major priority for our ministry. Over the course of the last 10 years living next to campuses in San Francisco and Palo Alto on a modest income has made the idea of purchasing a home unrealistic.

Jane's imagination has been reawakened in the past few months as prices have fallen and the options of where we could live have been expanded. The thought of having a place larger than our 850 square foot apartment for our family of four and guests has become very attractive. Over the course of the last few months she has become fascinated with the possibility of living in East Palo Alto.

For those of you who know our area East Palo Alto is a lower income area adjacent to Palo Alto that has been a place where many of our alumni have chosen to relocate in order to intentionally engage with issues of poverty and to learn how God and his people are at work outside of the "Stanford bubble." In the mid 80's alumni from IVCF at Stanford started Bayshore Christian Ministries and more recently alumni have started and been involved with the Family Center at O'Keefe Street.

It was friends from the Family Center who we turned to when we needed to move out of our apartment for the better part of a week during the beginning of this last academic year. We enjoyed living in the neighborhood and we realized that as a family we could see ourselves living in a similar community.

This last week we put an offer on a very modestly priced property in East Palo Alto and it was accepted. So now we have a fairly nice home that is ours if we would like that we need to make a final decision about in the next week.

We would appreciate your prayers for us as we seek clarity in this huge decision.
Some things that are cool about the house:
  1. It is four bedrooms (small bedrooms) with more than enough space for our family and guests.
  2. It is close enough to Jane's work, our current childcare, preschool, and church so we can continue our familiar routines for the foreseeable future.
  3. Our mortgage will be comparible to what we are currently paying in rent but we would get some equity.
  4. There is a big yard for our two boys.
  5. Friendly and ethnically diverse neighbors.
  6. It's proximity to the freeway put it almost 15 minutes closer to Jon's parents house.
  7. There is the possibility of our kids being able to go to Palo Alto schools or the local charter school both of which have strong academic reputations.
  8. The previous owner was a pastor and ran a ministry out of the home.
  9. The neighbor across the street is a church.
Some of the things that are of concern for us:
  1. Living in a higher-crime area.
  2. It will be more difficult for us to bike to work, pre-school, childcare etc.
  3. It involves a move away from some friends and former ministry partners.
  4. All of the unknown that comes with transition.
Would you please remember us in prayer these next few weeks. Overall we feel like it could be a good move for us but would like greater clarity.

With love,

Jon, Jane, Joey and Nathan
We look forward to seeing many of you at the party tomorrow! (www.gracefultools.com/ivevents/jpministry)

Saturday, June 13, 2009

IVCF at Stanford - Plan for the Final Week

Dear family and friends,

This next week I will be away for my last week-long conference as team leader of IVCF at Stanford. I will be leading a seminar for 20 graduates from the class of '09. We will take the time to discuss what it means to follow Jesus in the post-college years. Every morning I will lead them in a study in the life of Joseph, in the afternoons we will enjoy times of prayer and reflection and in the evenings we will discuss some practical issues regarding the life of faith in the post-college years.

It has been a joy to prepare to lead this seminar for these recent graduates. Joseph was a dreamer with big dreams yet he was faithful to serve--both in prison and in the halls of power. I pray that these graduates would, like Joseph, use their gifts to serve others in whatever places they find themselves. Through Joseph's wisdom and reliance on God, famine was averted and many lives were saved. I pray that these alumni would be leaders of wisdom and insight and help us face the challenges of our day.

But Joseph's story points to a bigger story. The story of one who was also betrayed by his brothers and sold for silver, who was falsely accused and resisted temptation, who was ultimately raised up by God to bring salvation to his people and to the world. It is this grand story that draws me into worship and fills me with hope.

This month as I leave the university along with the class of '09, I am thankful that God gives us big dreams and involves us in his plans. Yet in this time of transition I pray that we would not forsake God for his gifts and that we would not be so caught up in making a difference that we would forget the one who has made all the difference for us. Please join me in prayer for this coming week and in the weeks and years to come.

For the gospel,

Jon Paris – IVCF at Stanford

Friday, April 17, 2009

Joey Update - Good news - no tumor growth

Friends and family,

We just got back from a meeting with Joey's pediatric neuro-oncologist and I am glad to say we got a good report. The tumor has not grown in the last three months and we are therefore able to reduce the frequency of his MRIs from once every 3 months to once every 6 months. While we would love shrinkage as long as there is no growth he will be fine. Afterward I dropped Joey off at school and he promptly ran off to play with his friends and show off his hospital bracelets. Today has been a good day. Thank you for all your prayers and encouragement in this time.

with joy,
Jon, Jane, Joey and Nathan

To RSVP for Jon's transitioning off staff celebration visit:
http://www.gracefultools.com/ivevents/jpministry

Friday, April 3, 2009

Kuoparis Update - 4.3.09 - MRI today - Stanford Update - Going off staff party in June - What is next...

Dear friends and family,

There has been a lot going on in the life of our family and in the ministry of IVCF at Stanford.  Read below to find out more.

Family News
This Saturday Joey is going to turn four!   As an almost-four-year-old he has begun to challenge us in new ways. The other day after I told him he needed to take a bath he told me that was mean and that he was going to take something of mine and "hide it in a secret place!"  He used the same technique in a more indirect way on Jane as well.  He told her "I want to show you something" he then took her into his room where he had her wallet opened up and emptied out!  We are learning new ways to help our clever young man unlearn this behavior but you can pray for that we don't loose our wallets, cell phones, keys etc in the mean time!

Joey will have an MRI this afternoon (4/3/2009).  Please pray for both the time which will involve sedation as well as the results. He has mentioned that he has had more trouble seeing, which causes us a little concern about the possibility that the tumor is causing more disruption to his optic nerve. Once again we are praying that the tumor will shrink and that we would be able to avoid the need for more medical treatment.

Nathan is now almost 14 months and is walking around, stuffing his face with food and overall having a great time.  We have been doing a better job in the past month keeping him out of trouble and from playing with the toilet water (see my last update for context).  Still one of our favorite things for Nathan, Joey and I to do these days is to wrestle on the bed. Jane usually watches and wonders how she is going to survive with her three boys.

IVCF at Stanford
The ministry is going well at Stanford. Next year's staff team and student leaders team have already signed on for the 2009-2010 school year.  The staff team will consist of Sarah Bury (one of the current staff) and two graduating seniors (Chris Light and Taiei Harimoto). Both the student leaders team and the staff team are young, passionate and gifted. I believe they are going to do a great job leading the fellowship in coming years. Please join me in praying for them and supporting them.
 
What is next for Jon?
As I have mentioned previously I am finishing my service with InterVarsity this coming June. It is hard to believe. I am having a party to celebrate my time in ministry on June 27th and would love it if as many of you as possible could come and join me in celebrating my time serving with IVCF.  You can get more details and RSVP at:  http://www.gracefultools.com/ivevents/jpministry.

From now until June I am focusing on ending well with the ministry and setting myself and our family up for my time off staff.  

Many of you know about Graceful Tools Inc. and the website we created to do event registration, appointment confirmation and meeting scheduling (check it out if you haven't at www.gracefultools.com).  You might not have heard that I have started another venture with a few people which we hope to launch shortly after I go off staff.  I look forward to sharing more with you when I have more to show but it is pretty exiting.  

I would appreciate your prayers that I would eventually be able to bring in enough income through these new ventures to support our family.  I never thought ministry would be the safe and reliable financial option but leaving staff has actually taken a lot of faith. While I am leaving full time paid ministry at least for a season I look forward to continuing to love and serve simply as an amature - as someone who serves for the love of it.

With love,
Jon Paris
Note: Recently Fuller Theological Seminar wrote a short piece about my work with InterVarsity which was sent out to their alumni.  Check it out at:  http://www.fuller.edu/page.aspx?id=6389
* I will try and send more photos with our next update!


Saturday, January 31, 2009

Joey Update 1.31.09 - Difficult News

Dear friends,

We recently received some difficult news about from Joey's last MRI. The scan showed that the tumor has grown slightly since the previous MRI. It still is smaller than it was originally but this growth is a concern for us.

The only change this means for us is that we will have another MRI in 3 months (instead of the anticipated 6 months). If the tumor remains stable or shrinks in this next season then we will continue to monitor. If it grows more however, we will need to be prepared to discuss additional treatment options. (Right now more chemotherapy is the recommended option over radiation due to his age and the tumor's location in the optic chiasm).

Your prayers for our family are, as always, deeply appreciated. We know that health, relationships with loved ones and financial provision are gifts to us and not to be taken for granted. Times like this remind us how each moment we have with our son is a gift and of the wisdom of Jesus' call "not to worry about tomorrow" (Matthew 6:34). We are trying to respond in accordance with the scriptures' exhortation to be grateful and prayerful when we are tempted by anxiety (Philippians 4:6-7). God who showed himself faithful when we were tempted by little things, like a grade on a midterm in college, has continued to give us peace as we face temptations of greater magnitude. Thank you for joining us in this journey.

On a lighter note, Nathan, now almost one, is walking around our apartment and is mostly tempted by opportunities to splash his hands in toilet water. God have mercy!

With love,